Yes, your boyfriend is an idiot. Obviously, you really care about him – otherwise, I’m sure your insensitive “”” would have walked through the door! That said, you’re right, he doesn’t seem to understand. He is probably reluctant to have children. This is the conversation you need to have: what exactly are his feelings about being a father? Maybe he’s scared, and that’s what drives him to push the deadline to an absurd deadline (8 years is a really long time). Don’t worry about waiting 10 years to start the family you want! Give it a final age you can live with, maybe closer to 3-4 years old. Don’t focus on your “biological clock” because it thinks it already has an answer for this (that’s bad, but not the best angle to take) Instead, talk about what will make you happy in your life, what do you want to do and what place do you want there to be. Let him express his concerns about having children, why he wants to put it off. So I agree with the person who said to give you an ultimatum. It would be stupid of you to ruin your hopes of having children just because you were dating a cowardly man when having children was no longer an option! It sounds like a reason for resentment and regret. Good luck, and make sure he understands how important kids are to you, that you’re not going to throw that part of yourself away (or risk it) without a very good reason. It’s not something to mess around with, especially to keep the peace, as it will only backfire and send it back to you later. Good luck, this is a difficult situation you find yourself in!